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Sex Coaching with Real Talk. Real Results. No Weird Awkwardness.
Sex and relationships can get messy. Whether you’re dealing with bedroom blues, feeling disconnected, or just trying to figure out what you actually want, I’ve got you. No shame, no B.S.—just smart, practical sex coaching that actually works.
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Welcome to a Real Conversation About Sex & Relationships
Most of us weren’t exactly given a useful sex ed. And now? We’re out here navigating relationships, desire, and intimacy with zero training wheels. That’s where I come in.
I don’t do fluff, I don’t do shame, and I sure as hell don’t do outdated, one-size-fits-all advice. Whether you’re dealing with ED, wanting to level up your relationship, or figuring out what actually turns you on, I help you ditch the confusion and build a sex life that actually works for you.
No awkward doctor visits. No judgment. Just smart, honest sex coaching that helps you feel more confident, connected, and in control of your own pleasure.
Here’s What You Should Have Learned in Sex Ed, But Didn’t:
How to Have a Great Sex Life
Because "just do it" was never good advice.
Exploring Desire
(Without the Weirdness)
Your wants and needs evolve—let’s talk about it.
Sex Ed That Actually Makes Sense
Understanding how it all works = less stress, more fun.
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Success Stories
Before working with Dr. Lanae, I felt stuck by chronic vulvodynia and it was affecting my connection with my partner. Shame and anxiety weighed me down. Her gentle, empathetic approach opened my eyes a bit. I was able to reframe my self-view and get some tools for healing and hope. Now, I've got optimism and strategies for a more connected sex life.
Jess
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Dr. Lanae St.John

Talking about sex and relationships can feel awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m here to make those conversations way less weird and a whole lot more helpful.
As a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and a certified sex coach, I blend science, humor, and real-world wisdom to help people navigate intimacy, pleasure, and connection—without the outdated advice or unnecessary shame.
I wrote READ ME: A Parental Primer for The Talk, I’m deep into writing my next book (working title: Hot Mess), and I’m on a mission to make sex education as approachable as your favorite group chat—just with way better advice.
Here, you’ll find real talk, expert insights, and stories that make learning about sex and relationships feel natural—not awkward. Because let’s be honest: we all deserved a better sex ed.
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