About Dr.Lanae
Looking for a real, deep connection and a sex life that leaves you smiling?
I’m Dr. Lanae St. John, a Board-Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Coach. I help individuals and couples create extraordinary intimacy and sexual confidence.
It’s time to stop guessing. Let's start experiencing the sex and connection you deserve.
About Unlocking Your Most Fulfilling Sex Life
Discover the keys to unlocking your most intimate and fulfilling sex life.
It's more than sex—it’s confidence, connection, and getting the right answers when you need them. As a leading expert in sexual health and education, I provide accurate, empowering, and accessible information so you can make informed choices about intimacy and relationships.
Instead of turning to Google’s endless search results, come to me for real, science-backed answers that actually help.
About My Qualifications
In a world where self-proclaimed "sex enthusiasts" claim expertise and misinformation spreads unchecked, it’s crucial to separate fact from fiction—especially when it comes to something as important as your sexuality.
I’m Dr. Lanae St. John, a Board-Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Coach (CSC), with nearly two decades of education, research, and coaching experience. I’ve helped countless individuals and couples navigate their sexual health, confidence, and relationships—without judgment, shame, or misinformation.
My mission is clear:
- to provide you with accurate, evidence-based information about your desires
- to correct harmful myths that lead to unnecessary confusion and shame
- to offer real, practical strategies to help you build intimacy, confidence, and pleasure.
I founded LanaeStJohn.com to be a trusted resource for people seeking clarity and confidence in their sexuality. Whether you're exploring intimacy for the first time, overcoming past struggles, or deepening your connection with a partner, I'm here to guide you with knowledge, empathy, and expertise.
Degrees & Certifications
Somatica Method, Trained
2016
About This Work:
It's Empowering
Gain the knowledge, tools, and self-awareness you need to elevate your sexual and emotional well-being.
It's Inclusive
No matter your experience or background, find a space where you are seen, respected, and embraced.
It's Holistic
Tackle not just the symptoms, but the root causes of your challenges in sexuality, relationships, and emotional well-being for a more fulfilling life.
But talking about sex is tricky...
It’s one thing to say, “I want the large iced coffee” or “I want a raise,”and another to say, “I want you to pull my hair.”
But wait—are you a parent? You might be thinking, “Umm, I wanted to know how to talk to my kid about sex, not how to ask someone to pull my hair… yet.”
Well, I’m here to help with both. Because they’re not really separate. Get this:
If you can’t talk to your partner about sex, you probably can't talk to your kids about it either.
I help adults struggling with how to talk to their kids about sexuality. They learn how to educate themselves so they can let go of their fear and connect more deeply with themselves, their partners, and their children.
“But I know everything there is to know about sex."
I hear that – mostly from men. My reply is: “Would your partner agree?”
Heterosexual women have fewer orgasms than men or lesbian or bisexual women*
And this tragedy is preventable. How? With education.
If you got sex ed, it was probably during middle-school or high-school. Have you had any formal education since?
I specialize in Sex Ed for Grownups.
Some people seek out golf pros to up their game. Some people work with financial advisors to help plan their financial future. I’m like a sexual fiduciary*, acting in your best interest to help you improve your sex portfolio.
My background was “don’t ask, don’t do”
I grew up Catholic, Conservative, and in the Midwest.
I’ve lived the secrecy, embarrassment, and shame around sex. I was a “virgin” in college until one night when I got drunk and was sexually assaulted.
Because all of the messages around me while I was growing up centered on “preserving and protecting my virginity” I felt my value was gone, so I made some shitty dating and sex decisions for a while.
Alcohol fueled lots of those moments too. I was a hot mess. Fast forward 11 years. I was married and living as a new mom in Germany. I noticed people didn’t have the same attitude about sex that Americans do.
From this, I realized things could be different for my kids.
When I moved back to the states and put my kids in school, I had the chance to go back to school to study sexuality.
I love talking to people about sex.
You almost have to tell me to shut up about it.
You probably would if you weren’t so fascinated as well. My enthusiasm has that effect on people.
I am a Certified Sex Coach in the Bay Area and I coach adults about basic human sexuality.
Lots of adults from many different backgrounds.
Experience the transformative benefits of working with Dr. Lanae St. John, a Certified Sex Coach:
- feel confident and empowered to give directions to a partner during sex(without feeling bad about it)
- understand your partner's needs and the importance of pleasing your partner (aka “she comes first”, guys)
- know how to communicate effectively about sexual health (like how to communicate your STI status)
- share your newfound knowledge with everyone who will listen
So. What do YOU want to know?
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Unleash Your Potential
Don't let the world's outdated rules stop you from having the amazing love life you deserve. Together, we'll break free from what's 'expected' and explore what makes you truly happy. Book a call, and let's kickstart you toward fulfilling, extraordinary connection. Sound like a plan?
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