Are you ready to take control of your sexuality and improve your relationships? A discovery call is the perfect opportunity to explore your desires and learn how to achieve them. Book a call now and discover how you can benefit from working with a sex coach.

What Is A Sex Coach?

A sex coach is a trained professional who guides individuals and couples in enhancing their sexual well-being and physical intimacy. Drawing on a deep understanding of human sexuality, relationship dynamics, and communication, a sex coach offers personalized advice, education, and strategies to help clients explore and improve their sexual lives. This process is rooted in a non-judgmental, safe, and confidential environment, empowering clients to achieve fulfilling sexual experiences and deeper emotional connections in their relationships.

What Does A Sex Coach Do?

A sex coach guides you through the intricate journey of sexual wellness and fulfillment. As a sex and intimacy coach, I create a welcoming and secure environment where you can openly discuss your sexual concerns and aspirations. My approach is to educate and enlighten you about the various facets of sexuality, from understanding your body to mastering arousal and emotional intimacy techniques. I’m here to help you confront and surmount challenges like sexual anxieties, communication hurdles, or past negative experiences.

Some of the things we might explore in sex and intimacy coaching sessions include:

  • Your deepest desires, emotional needs, and sexual problems.
  • Your personal growth or relationship goals.
  • How to establish healthy emotional awareness and improve communication skills in your intimate relationships.
  • How to establish physical connection amidst our busy lives, whether through self touch or intimacy with a partner.
  • How to provide emotional support to your children as you discuss sexuality, sexual issues, and human desires.

My goal is to empower you to make informed, healthy decisions about your sexual life, boosting your confidence and cultivating a positive sexual self-perception. Together, we’ll explore and enhance your sexual journey, ensuring it’s as rewarding and fulfilling as possible.

Dr. Lanae St.John

Benefits Of Sex Coaching

I’ve been working with clients for over a decade and my clients report a significant improvement in their ability to communicate openly about sex, leading to deeper emotional and physical intimacy and more fulfilling sexual experiences. Many have overcome personal challenges such as erectile dysfunction and discomfort with sexual encounters, attributing their success to my compassionate, knowledgeable, and enjoyable coaching style. 

The impact of intimacy coaching extends beyond personal sexual wellness to family dynamics, with clients expressing increased confidence in discussing sexual health topics with their children. This holistic approach to sex coaching not only enhances individual sexual confidence and pleasure but also fosters healthier, more open personal relationships within families, contributing to a more comprehensive understanding and acceptance of sexual health as a vital aspect of overall well-being.

Here is what the data shows about the benefits of sexual and intimacy coaching:

  • Enhanced Sexual Well-Being: Sex coaching has been linked to improved sexual health and pleasure, particularly during challenging times like the pandemic [source].
  • Support in Healthy Sexual Decision-Making: It provides support and guidance in making informed sexual decisions, as evidenced by research focusing on young adults’ sexual choices [source].
  • Increased Sexual and Marital Satisfaction: Psychological interventions, including sex and intimacy coaching, have shown significant positive effects on sexual satisfaction in romantic relationships [source].
  • Improved Sexual Enjoyment: Viewing sex as a leisure activity and engaging in open discussions about it can lead to more enjoyable and fulfilling sexual experiences [source].
  • Positive Impact on Athletic Performance: While not directly related to sex coaching, research on sexual activity suggests a correlation between a healthy sex life and improved physical performance [source].
  • Incorporation of Pleasure in Sexual Health: Studies emphasize the importance of incorporating pleasure in sexual health interventions, which is a key aspect of sex coaching [source].
  • Reduction in STIs and Risky Sexual Behaviors: Educational interventions in sexual health, akin to sex coaching, have been effective in reducing sexually transmitted infections and risky sexual behaviors [source].
  • Enhancement of Sexual Pleasure: Online interventions focused on sexual pleasure have shown effectiveness, highlighting the importance of pleasure-focused education in sex coaching [source].
  • Improved Sexual Knowledge and Well-Being: Greater sexual knowledge is a predictor of sexual well-being, an area often addressed in sex coaching [source].
  • Effective Communication: Sex coaching helps in developing sex-positive scripts and effective sexual communication skills, crucial for healthy sexual relationships [source].

These benefits underscore the multifaceted impact of sex coaching sessions on individuals’ sexual health, satisfaction, and overall well-being.

Types Of Sex Coaching

Sexual wellness is a journey unique to each individual. That’s why I offer a variety of sex coaching types to cater to your specific needs and goals.

  • Individual Coaching: Tailored for your personal journey, this coaching focuses on self-discovery, overcoming personal barriers, and enhancing your own sexual well-being and pleasure.
  • Couples Coaching: Designed to deepen the connection between partners, relationship coaching focuses on communication, sexual compatibility, and shared exploration of desires and fantasies.
  • Parental Coaching: A unique offering that equips parents with the tools and confidence to have open, healthy conversations about sex and relationships with their children.
  • Online Workshops and Classes: For those who prefer a group setting or digital learning, we provide interactive workshops and classes covering a range of topics from sexual health education to pleasure enhancement techniques.

Each type of coaching is a stepping stone towards embracing your sexuality with confidence, joy, and a sense of self awareness and empowerment. Let’s explore together and unlock the path to extraordinary pleasure and intimacy.

Do I Need A Sex + Relationship Coach? 

Deciding whether you need a sex and relationship coach is a personal journey, but there are key indicators that suggest it might be beneficial for you. If you’re struggling with sexual desires, feeling inadequate in your sexual experiences, or facing challenges in communicating your needs to your partner, sex and relationship coaching could be the solution. It’s especially helpful if you’re grappling with changes in your body’s response or feeling stuck and overwhelmed in your sexual life. 

Online sex and relationship coaching with me offers a personalized approach to understanding and enhancing your sexual needs and communication. It’s a journey towards a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life, boosting your confidence and self-esteem. 

Here’s a simple checklist to help you decide:

  • Feeling Unfulfilled: Do you feel something is missing in your sexual experiences or relationships?
  • Communication Challenges: Are you struggling to express your sexual needs or desires to your partner?
  • Sexual Confidence: Do you feel insecure or unsure about your sexual self?
  • Physical Changes: Are changes in your body affecting your sexual response or enjoyment?
  • Desire Discrepancies: Do you and your partner have mismatched sexual desires or drives?
  • Educational Gaps: Do you feel like you’re lacking in sexual knowledge or skills?
  • Parental Concerns: As a parent, are you unsure how to approach sex education with your children?

If you find yourself nodding to any of these, sex and relationship coaching might be exactly what you need. My approach is tailored to your unique situation, offering a safe space to explore and enhance your sexual well-being. Together, we can transform your sexual journey into one of confidence, pleasure, and deep emotional connection again.

How To Find A Sex Therapist

Finding the right sex therapist or coach can be a pivotal step in your journey towards sexual wellness, personal growth and fulfillment. Here’s a checklist to guide you in making this important choice:

  • Look for Credentials: Ensure the professional has relevant degrees or certifications in sexology or related fields. Look into organizations like the American College of Sexologists or the World Association of Sex Coaches for qualified professionals.
  • Check for Bias Awareness: A good sex therapist should be aware of their own biases and limitations, especially in the realm of human sexuality.
  • Understand Their Comfort Zone: Professionals should know their ‘squicks’ (things that cause revulsion) and refer out cases that fall outside their comfort zone.
  • Seek Non-Judgmental Professionals: Choose someone who won’t judge your experiences or choices, whether it’s related to BDSM, porn, polyamory, or other sexual kinks.
  • Trust Your Comfort Level: During your initial consultation, pay attention to how comfortable you feel with the professional. If it’s not a good fit, don’t hesitate to look for someone else.

Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. As a certified sex and intimacy coach, I understand the importance of finding the right support. Don’t hesitate to reach out and find the help you need to navigate your sexual health and relationships.

Sex & Relationship Coaching Frequently Asked Questions

Sex and intimacy coaching sessions can have profoundly positive outcomes and often require a deep trust in the coaching process. To help you understand exactly what sex and intimacy coaching entails, I’ve answered some of the most common questions my clients have before booking a call with me.

Q: What Is A Sex Coach And What Do They Do?

A: A sex coach, like me, is a professional who helps individuals and couples improve their sexual experiences and relationships. At, I provide guidance, advice, and support to help clients overcome challenges, achieve their goals, and improve their overall sexual well-being.

Q: What Kind Of Issues Do You Help Clients With?

A: As a sex coach, I work with clients on a wide range of issues related to sex and relationships. This can include difficulties with sexual desire, sexual performance, relationship issues, and more. I help my clients achieve their goals and improve their sexual well-being.

Q: Do I Have To Be In A Relationship To Work With A Sex Coach?

A: Not at all! While some clients may be seeking intimacy coaching sessions to help with issues related to their relationships, sex coaching is also beneficial for individuals who are not currently in a relationship.

Q: Will Our Conversation Be Confidential And Private?

A: Yes, all conversations with me will be kept confidential and private. I take client privacy very seriously and I am committed to providing a safe and comfortable environment for you to explore your sexuality.

Q: Will You Judge Me For My Desires Or Kinks?

A: Absolutely not. I believe that every individual has their own unique desires and preferences, and my goal is to help you understand and explore yours without any judgment.

Q: How Long Does A Discovery Call Usually Last?

 A: These Discovery Calls can vary in length, but most last around 20-30 minutes.

Q: What If I Don’t Feel Comfortable Talking About Certain Things?

A: That’s completely normal – many people have told me on the Discovery Call that this was the first time telling anyone else about their concerns. And you are in charge of the conversation. You can share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with, and we will work at your pace.

Q: Are You Licensed Or Certified?

A: Yes, I am a certified sex coach by Sex Coach U and I’m a Diplomate of The American Board of Sexology.

I have earned my Masters in Human Sexuality (MHS) and then completed my Doctorate in Human Sexuality (DHS) from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. I also serve on the Advisory Board for the World Association of Sex Coaches (WASC) and on the faculty for Sex Coach U. I am a member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH).

I have studied with contemporary icons like Drs. Betty Dodson, Betty Martin, Patti Britton, Carol Queen, and Ava Cadell as well as lectured in Guangzhou, China at the China Sexology Association (2013). In addition, I am trained in the Somatica Method, Cuddle Party Facilitation, and as a trained professional cuddle practitioner. Check out my LinkedIn Profile for more.

More than just a “sex enthusiast,” this is a space where I am very comfortable and strive to help you feel the same.

Q: How Do I Book A Call?

A: You can easily book a call by clicking here on the link provided. I hope to talk to you soon!

About the Author

The MamaSutra

Dr. Lanae St.John is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and certified sex coach with a background in sexology and a passion for helping people improve their sexual health and relationships. She is the author of "Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"" and the upcoming "You Are the One: How stopping the search and looking inside will lead you to your romantic destiny," and is committed to staying up-to-date on the latest research and trends in the field. Dr. St.John aims to share her knowledge and expertise in a relatable and approachable way through her blog on

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