Another mom friend of mine had an interesting situation occur. Put yourself in her shoes as I tell the story and think about how you would respond.
Your 7 year old child is at a sleepover at dad’s/friend’s/relative’s house. Your child is not asleep when an adult/teen/older sibling in the house starts watching a DVD. It’s “Good Luck Chuck”. The next day your child comes home and asks you, “What’s a “blow job”? What’s “fingering”? What’s “doin’ the nasty”? What do you DO??
I’ll tell you what happened in this situation. My girlfriend is an attractive, whip-smart, no-nonsense woman. She told her daughter the truth and gave a direct answer (a very brief, need-to-know answer) to each question with no shame or embarrassment. She also told her daughter that those were not appropriate words for a kid to say out in public so they would keep them between mom & daughter. The daughter tried a couple times to use the new terms but the mom just simply redirected her that it was not a nice thing to say. And it was totally a non-issue from that point on.
When this fellow mother told her other mother/girlfriends this story, most replied along the lines of… “OMG! You TOTALLY should have made something up!” I STRONGLY disagree with that approach. In my opinion, I think my girlfriend did EXACTLY the right thing. As uncomfortable as it was for my friend, she knew deep down that she did not want to tell her daughter a lie. They have a strong mother-daughter bond. I think this just made that bond stronger.
So now back to you: How do you think lying or telling untrue words to your son or daughter will affect your relationship? Fast forward 5 years or so when your child encounters the words again with his/her peers and the others laugh at your child because s/he is misinformed. Do you think that will have an impact on what your child thinks of you?