I’m hearing from parents who are quarantined with their partners; they are getting antsy and want help figuring out when or how to have sex with their partners while all of their kids are home.

Hey, I see you. I hear you. This video is for you.


I begin with a bit of an anthropological story of a place called “Mangaia” where their attitudes about sex, procreation, and pleasure are VERY different from our colonialist, religious orientation.

I also share some strategies for getting busy when you can:

  1. Protocols
  2. What to say about “strange noises”   One thing I didn’t say to this that is worth mentioning.  Consider YOUR reaction when you taste something amazing and delicious. What’s it look or sound like? “OMG, Yuuuuum. This tastes soooo goooood” or some equivalent, right? We make strange noises even when something is good. Use this example to give kids a different, less scary perspective. It hints at the pleasure piece – a subject you can dive into later when kids are ready to hear it. Make sense?
  3. How to handle older kids/teens

So that’s it for now. I want to hear from you. Share your favorite strategy with me in the comments below. I’d love to hear what’s working for you.

Stay safe, and wash your hands.



About the Author

Dr. Lanae St.John is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and certified sex coach with a background in sexology and a passion for helping people improve their sexual health and relationships. She is the author of "Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"" and the upcoming "You Are the One: How stopping the search and looking inside will lead you to your romantic destiny," and is committed to staying up-to-date on the latest research and trends in the field. Dr. St.John aims to share her knowledge and expertise in a relatable and approachable way through her blog on themamasutra.com.

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