It is completely normal and healthy to crave intense sexual pleasure. Having sexual desires is a beautiful part of the human experience but many of my clients come to me because they aren’t sure how to turn those desires into a healthy, passionate sex life. That’s where positive affirmations for sexual confidence come in.

Developing sexual confidence begins with your mindset. Learning (and unlearning) the different beliefs that you may have around your sexual and relationship identities is the very first step to creating the sex life you crave. The next step? Replacing those limiting beliefs with sexual affirmations.

In this post, I will walk you through the different limiting beliefs that are preventing you from having the satisfying sex life you deserve. Then I will share with you my top 15 sexual affirmations that will help you achieve a fulfilling sex life. I’ll also include a few exercises to practice with your positive affirmations so that you can enjoy a mind blowing sex life once and for all!

10 Ways Your Mindset May Be Sabotaging Your Sexual Experiences

Unfortunately, many of us grew up with cultural conditioning and myths about sex and sexuality that hold us back from experiencing the intimacy, connection, and freedom we deserve. These limiting beliefs may include beliefs like “sex is dirty or shameful,” “I’m not attractive or desirable enough,” or “I shouldn’t want certain things in the bedroom.” They may be rooted in cultural messages, past traumas or negative experiences, impressions from media, something someone said one time, or simply a lack of education or support. But no matter where they come from, these beliefs can be a major barrier to building the healthy, positive sexual mindset you deserve. 

That’s why I compiled this comprehensive list of the top 10 mindset barriers that can hold you back from experiencing pleasure, joy, and connection in your sexual experiences. With this list, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of how these beliefs are impacting your overall sexual wellness and self-care, and build skills and strategies to challenge and overcome them, so that you can cultivate a more positive, empowered sexual mindset.

1. “Sex is dirty or shameful”: This belief is often rooted in cultural or religious messages that make sex “sinful” or sexual arousal “immoral”. To challenge this belief, try reframing sex as a natural, healthy expression of intimacy and pleasure. Surround yourself with positive messages about sex and sexuality, and remind yourself that you are entitled to pleasure and joy in your sexual experiences.
2. “I’m not attractive or desirable enough”: Many people feel insecure about their bodies or their sexual abilities (because someone said something to them) leading them to hold back from fully expressing themselves in sexual situations. To overcome this belief, focus on building self-confidence and self-acceptance. Practice positive self-talk, surround yourself with supportive friends and partners, and focus on the intense pleasure and connection you can experience in sexual situations, rather than on your appearance or performance. And if someone does say something like that to you, they’re the a**hole.
3. “I shouldn’t want certain things in the bedroom”: Whether it’s a particular kink or fetish, a desire for non-monogamy, or simply a preference for a certain type of sexual activity, many people feel ashamed or embarrassed about their sexual desires. To challenge this belief that you’re too demanding in bed, try reframing your desires and sexual behaviors as natural and healthy expressions of your unique sexual identity. Seek out supportive communities or partners who share your sexual desires, and work on communicating your needs and boundaries clearly and unquestionably.
4. “I’m not experienced enough”: Whether you’re a virgin or simply haven’t had as much sexual experience as you would like, it’s easy to feel insecure or inadequate about your sexual abilities. To overcome this belief, focus on learning and exploring at your own pace. If you work with me, you get access to resources and education that can help you build your skills and confidence, and communicate openly with your partner(s) about your desires or whatever you want to share.
5. “I don’t deserve pleasure or happiness in sexual situations”: This belief is sometimes rooted in shame or trauma related to sex or sexuality. To challenge this belief, seek out support from a therapist or sex coach who can help you work through your emotions and build healthier, more positive beliefs about sex and sexuality. Practice self-care and self-compassion, and remind yourself that you are worthy of pleasure and joy in all aspects of your life and deserve sexual pleasure too.
6. “My partner(s) won’t accept me for who I am”: Many people worry that their partner(s) will judge them or reject them if they express their true desires or fantasies. To challenge this belief, work on building trust and communication with your partner(s), and practice expressing yourself in a clear and respectful way. Remember that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and consent, and that true intimacy comes from being open and honest with one another. Again, if your partner doesn’t accept you, they’re probably not a great partner for you right now because they likely have their own sexual hangups to work on.
7. “I’m not worthy of love and connection”: This belief can be particularly challenging for people who have experienced trauma or abuse related to sex and sexuality. To challenge this belief, seek out support from a therapist or sex coach who can help you work through your emotions and build healthier beliefs about yourself and your relationships. Practice self-care and self-love, and surround yourself with supportive people who can help you build healthy, positive relationships.
8. “I have to conform to societal norms and expectations”: Whether it’s related to gender roles, sexual orientation, or other aspects of identity, many people feel pressure to conform to societal expectations when it comes to sex and sexuality. To challenge this belief, focus on building a strong sense of self and cultivating a personal identity that feels authentic and true to you. Seek out communities and resources that support diverse expressions of sexuality and gender, and work on advocating for yourself and others in your relationships and in the wider world.
9. “I’m too old to enjoy sex”: Many people believe that age determines a person’s sexual abilities or desires. This belief can lead to feelings of shame or inadequacy and can prevent people from really enjoying their sexual experiences. To challenge this belief, focus on cultivating a positive, empowered sexual mindset, regardless of your age. Seek out resources and education that can help you build your sexual skills and confidence, and work on communicating your desires and boundaries clearly and assertively with your partner(s).
10. “I’m not allowed to enjoy sex”: This belief can be particularly challenging for people who have experienced abuse or trauma related to sex and sexuality. It can also be related to cultural or religious messages that equate sex with sin or immorality (see #1). To challenge this belief, work on building a positive, empowered sexual mindset that values pleasure, joy, and connection. Seek out support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through any trauma or negative experiences, and surround yourself with supportive people who can help you build a healthy, positive sexual identity.

Remember, you don’t have to go on this journey alone. As a solo entrepreneur, I’m here to provide the guidance and support you need to build a healthier, more positive sexual mindset and cultivate deeper intimacy and connection in your relationships. Whether you’re looking for one-on-one coaching, online courses, or other resources, I have a range of options to meet your needs.

So why not take the first step and book a call with me today? I’ll help you explore your options and find the resources that are right for you. Together, we can build a world where everyone has the tools and knowledge they need to enjoy healthy, fulfilling sexual experiences.

15 Positive Sexual Affirmations For Sexual Confidence

Creating a healthier and more positive sexual mindset is possible when you have the right tools and information. These affirmations are designed to help you build self-confidence, trust, and intimacy in your relationships. As you repeat these affirmations to yourself daily, remember that you are capable of creating a life full of love, joy, and pleasure. So let’s get started!

1. “I am deserving of pleasure and joy in my sexual experiences”
2. “I trust my body to guide me towards what feels good and right for me”
3. “I am worthy of love and connection, and my sexuality is an expression of that love”
4. “I communicate my boundaries and desires clearly and respectfully, and I honor the boundaries and desires of others”
5. “I embrace my unique sexual identity, and I celebrate the diversity of human sexuality”
6. “I am worthy of respect and dignity in all of my sexual experiences, and I will not tolerate any form of abuse or violation”
7. “I honor and respect my own journey and growth around sex and sexuality, and I trust that I am making progress towards a healthier, more positive mindset”
8. “I forgive myself for any past mistakes or trauma related to sex and sexuality, and I am committed to healing and growth moving forward”
9. “I approach my sexual experiences with curiosity, openness, and a willingness to learn and grow”
10. “I am grateful for the gift of my sexuality, and I honor and celebrate it in all of its forms”
11. I am beautiful, worthy, and deserving of love.
12. I accept all parts of myself – my body included – with kindness and respect.
13. I am confident in my ability to make decisions about my own body and sexuality.
14. I seek out pleasure with an open mind, free from judgment or shame.
15. I trust my intuition to guide me toward what will bring me joy and fulfillment.

These affirmations are intended to promote a sense of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-empowerment around sex and sexuality, while also acknowledging the complex and sometimes difficult emotional terrain that people may encounter on their journey towards healing and growth. By practicing these affirmations regularly, people can start to build a more positive, trauma-informed sexual mindset that promotes pleasure, connection, and intimacy.

EFT Tapping Script for Mindset Barriers

here to help you tap away any mindset barriers that might be keeping you from experiencing a happy, healthy sexuality. Maybe you’ve experienced trauma or negative experiences related to sex and sexuality, or maybe you’re struggling with limiting beliefs and negative sexual self-talk. Whatever your situation, EFT tapping can help you release these barriers and move towards a more positive, empowered mindset.

Begin by taking a few deep breaths and noticing any tension or stress in your body. As you breathe in, imagine filling your body with a sense of calm and peace. And as you exhale, imagine releasing any tension or stress from your body.

Round 1:

Karate chop point: Even though I have these mindset barriers around sex and sexuality, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I’ve been conditioned to believe certain things about sex and my sexuality, I choose to release these limitations and embrace a more positive, empowered mindset.

Even though I may have experienced trauma or negative experiences related to sex, I choose to honor my feelings and release these barriers so that I can move towards a happier, healthier sexuality.

Eyebrow: These limiting beliefs about sex and sexuality

Side of eye: These negative feelings around my body and my sexual experiences

Under eye: This shame and guilt around sex and sexuality

Under nose: These feelings of inadequacy and insecurity

Chin: These fears and doubts about my ability to experience pleasure and intimacy

Collarbone: These feelings of unworthiness and self-doubt

Under arm: These limiting beliefs that are holding me back from a happy, healthy sexuality

Top of the head: Releasing these mindset barriers and embracing a more positive, empowered mindset

Round 2:

Karate chop point: Even though I still have some of these limiting beliefs and negative feelings, I choose to release them now and embrace a more positive, empowered mindset.

Even though I may still feel some of these fears and doubts, I choose to honor my journey and trust in my ability to heal and grow.

Even though I may have experienced trauma or negative experiences related to sex, I choose to release these barriers now and move towards a happier, healthier sexuality.

Eyebrow: Releasing these limiting beliefs and negative feelings

Side of eye: Choosing to embrace a more positive, empowered mindset

Under eye: Trusting in my ability to heal and grow

Under nose: Honoring my journey and my feelings

Chin: Embracing a happier, healthier sexuality

Collarbone: Releasing these barriers and moving forward with confidence and joy

Under arm: I choose to love and accept myself, and to experience pleasure and intimacy in all areas of my life.

Top of the head: Embracing a more positive, empowered mindset and releasing any remaining mindset barriers.

Now, take a deep breath and release any remaining tension or stress in your body. How do you feel?

Know that you can come back to this tapping experience whenever you need to release mindset barriers and move towards a happier, healthier sexuality. And if you need more support, I’m here to help. Thank you for tapping with me today, and I wish you all the best on your journey towards a more positive, empowered mindset.

Final Thoughts

Remember, having sexual and emotional needs is a healthy and beautiful part of human nature. Everyone deserves a healthy, positive sexual mindset. Course-correcting your sexual insecurities with positive affirmations is a powerful way to unleash your sexual energy in a healthy and open way. You deserve sexual pleasure! If you want help building sexual confidence and unlearning the limiting beliefs about your sexual desires, then book a call with me to see how we can work together. I’m here to help you achieve sexual pleasure without the guilt or fear!

xxoo

Lanae